Impacting future generations through DANCE (and my awesomeness)!

I’m going to be brutally honest here (Mike). With my being a salsa dancer I used to lead my wife in a dance daily, weekly at a minimum... but this last year I have been slacking. It’s been about 3 weeks since I grabbed my wife and danced. I have no excuse, but can absolutely recognize the reasons behind this. We’re navigating 3 kids going to three different houses, our baby girl Stella, work, COVID nonsense, elections... The stress and busyness goes on and on.

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I could blame any and all of those things for taking up my mental space and misaligning my priorities, but the reality is that my main job as the husband is to lead (just like in dance men... we LEAD) so I need to lead the “dance” of making my bride and our relationship a priority. It may seem like a small thing to some, but not dancing with my gal is a big red flag in our marriage. It means that I’m letting external issues rob my time, my energy and my space...

Men, hear me out. Our wives need us, our kids need us, our churches need us, to be present and leading and ensuring we have our right priorities in right order.

At this point you may be asking yourself what the heck this has to do with lessons learned from living in a blended family?? And let me tell you, It has a lot to do with blended family living! This has been weighing heavily on my heart. Your new marriage presents new opportunity. AND If you have new kids as a part of the package, this has also given you the unique opportunity to change another child’s future. How you model your new marriage, the example you lead, the priorities you make, may be some of the most impactful moments that influence how and what your new bonus child(ren) see as a positive marriage. You’re literally guiding generational change and inviting in God’s redemption for your kids that may not have seen a healthy marriage modeled before, and may still not see healthy relationships on the other side! This is weighty and important, and not to be taken lightly.

So men, dance with your wives (or whatever it is you do to adore her for all the world to see). Your kids and your new bonus kids are watching, so treat your bride as the treasure you were given. It’s important for your marriage. It’s important for your family. It’s important for future generations.

It’s not just a dance, it’s so much more.

Even in the wind and rain, you won’t ever be sad you made the time.

Blessings to you, Smiley